Katie 17, 2012, 9:42 am july
We agree with you… i dunno. Its hard. I simply know personally i couldnt just let the lady glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. I have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.
Like i stated, i wouldnt walk out my method to attempt to communicate with her, but if she sets the record straight using the gf, hopefully she’s going to turn her focus through the LW being a problem towards the man being the problem, that will be what’s going on.
Katie 17, 2012, 9:50 am july
As well as, just exactly what can you want to bet that he’s feeding their brand new girlfriend the complete “crazy ex” routine to spell out why they talk most of the time? And was operating into one another really and truly just a coincidence?
Nadine 17, 2012, 9:52 am july
I will realise why you’d believe that means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but We see the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, perhaps maybe not the ex-BF relationship that is current. Thats simply a complicator. The LW can simply get a grip on her very own actions, and overlook the ex-BF calling and annoying that is being. Their relationship with brand new GF is none of her company, and frankly, the 2 girls don’t need to be friends after all. It could you should be yet another connect to the man for the LW, that is wanting to cut ties that are emotional.
Katie July 17, 2012, 9:54 am
Thats an excellent point for sure!
Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am
Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I accustomed be buddies using this selection of dudes who accustomed have such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy to them after two weeks and I’d get actually astonished, cos they seemed therefore normal if you ask me? Then we realised it wasn’t the girls, its the people. While the girls had been all simply normal those who, you realize, wished to understand if that they had a boyfriend or not…….
Katie 17, 2012, 10:04 am july
Yea. Its love, as soon as that takes place enough times- what’s the typical denominator? YOU MAY BE!!
I do feel detrimental to this GF that is new. She deserves to own a guy’s attention that is full. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her which he nevertheless longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW considering that the man is telling her a couple of crap about her. Its simply all incorrect. The whole thing.
Nadine 17, 2012, 10:09 am july
I’m bad she needs to look out for herself for her too, but. Its difficult being the girlfriend that is first a long relationship, but thats generally why a lot of people go into all of them with their eyes spacious. Oh and the man has to“ stop droppingBut We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. I keep imagining him carrying it out the method the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, maybe you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”
Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:25 am july
Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands he is just looking for a reaction everytime he says it that he has a GF. He desires the LW to be like “well I don’t care if you have a GF, i am going to nevertheless blow you” or “Dump that skank, and get back to me”
Katie 17, 2012, 10:27 am july
Yea, its like whenever i was in twelfth grade and me and my boyfriend would split up every single other week, in which he would “accidently” text me personally or something like that just therefore we would fight and acquire straight back together.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 2:45 pm
@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and acquire right right straight back together”
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 10:05 am
I’ve said right right here a whole lot, if the man whips out of the word “crazy” I operate the other means. I understand therefore men that are many utilize that word to hide with regards to their dickish behavior.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am
We don’t understand why individuals would phone some body crazy within the beginning. I recently state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and then leave it at that. The very fact on it, makes me think you may be the one that likes to stir the muck that you put a “crazy” label.
Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am
Also, you could be kinda crazy as well if you are willing to call someone crazy, wouldn’t that mean?
Rilooyah 17, 2012, 4:44 pm july
Therefore real! As soon as the “crazy” comes down, Im operating one other method. I do believe it absolutely was stated above- once you attract the crazy, the typical denominator is constantly YOU, friend.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:21 am
The truth is, that it really is partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he could be in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this happened to her she most likely could be upset about any of it too, yet somehow she will continue to respond to this dudes calls and even though he keeps saying that he could be dreaming about her, and all sorts of of this bull shit.
Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 10:26 am
Yep! We totally agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk for this woman since your simply planning to cause drama. You must just recognize he’s maybe maybe maybe not your boyfriend and also that you know he has a girlfriend is making you a bad guy in this too though you still like his attention, the fact.
Katie 17, 2012, 10:35 am july
This is certainly a great point, you dudes. I didnt think about it like this.
So LW, if you truly do respect their relationship and wish them happyness, keep them alone!! Like eljay (I favor you, eljay) said, some one has got to function as the adult in this case. You have to do it if he is not willing to be.
Painted_lady July 17, 2012, 2:17 pm
Amen bestie – we accept you about talking to your gf. That knows exactly just what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their chatting so frequently, but as the relationship is none of these company, the truth that the LW in addition to girlfriend that is new met now i do believe permits the LW some freedom. That I had heard about and wanted to get along with (I’m going to assume that the LW wants that? ) and it went horribly, I might reach out and go, hey, I’m so sorry that went badly if I had been in a situation where a friend brought someone around. She does not fundamentally need certainly to state, “Hey, which means that your boyfriend happens to be saying _____ for me and he’s the main one calling, and then he said you had been ok with this specific, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went poorly, I happened to be underneath the impression you had been fine with your being friends, but i recently understood I’m not fine with our being friends either, so that it’s no problem anymore. ”
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:37 am
I’dn’t keep in touch with the gf about it. I would want is their ex of 3 years reaching out to me if I were dating someone for two months the last thing. And simply to inform you that you respect her relationship? I might think you’re bullshitting me personally and playing mind games. Simply Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex you don’t desire to hear from him for a time, then keep them alone. Actually they probably won’t work-out them work that out themselves because you are still in the picture (which doesn’t do great things for a new relationship), but let.
Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:39 am
Oh in addition, that we leave immediately if I were the new girlfriend and my bf and I ran into his ex at a bar I would also demand. It is therefore uncomfortable. Everybody pretends they can be” that is“mature stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay whenever your SO’s ex appears, but why? You don’t have actually become okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of 36 months.
Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:28 am